Love is a Path.

The ‘one’.

Who are they?

What are they doing right now?

Will they like me?

Where will we first meet?

The constant thought process of my younger self…

Growing up with the expectations I would physically run into my future person, I now laugh and sigh at my hopelessly romantic mind. In her head, every turn into the next woollies aisle could have been ‘the moment’. BAM! groceries go flying, we look at each other and that’s it…. seven months pregnant. Okay… maybe not that dramatic, but not too far off.

The misconception of ‘the one’ has been engrained into our minds through the magic of media, movies and from the youngest of ages, fairytales. The notion of a mystical force drawing two people together has been the romantic standards set by false desires.

We need to understand love doesn’t start with someone else, it starts with YOU. Loving yourself, being aware of your own needs, desires and dreams is the basis of love. No one else, just you. Instead of ‘they’, think about you.

Who am I?

What do I want?

What do I need?

What makes me happy?

Where will my life take me?

Changing the narrative and creating your own love story with yourself. The balance between any couple is dependent on the individualism of each partner. You have a path, your life. If someone crosses into that path and they align, that’s the foundation for a healthy relationship. Never alter your path for someone else.

The Woolworths romance may happen but do not set your life on finding them. Get your groceries, go home and start laying down the first bricks on your own unique path. Love is beautiful, but give it to yourself first.